Posts by Lady Lee

In the early days when people were just beginning to talk about abuse (late 70's) there was a real backlash about using the word "victim" mostly because it disempowers victims. We have seen the same effect in the gay commumity and the black or Afro-American community as they each struggle to find a word that marks them as a group struggling with their identity.

Each group has taken on a name that feels right for them. Victims have become survivors. But at one time we were victims as a result of unwanted experience.

These labels are part of the experience but they are also labels given to us by the outside - those others who seek to label us. At this point in my life and recovery I choose the label that works for me at the time. Mostly I am survivor. But the whole silentlambs issue has brought up some issues for me that bring back the victim in me. For certain purposes I need to reclaim that identity for others to understand where I am coming from - like the two JW ladies who came to my door the Saturday after Dateline.

Now as for the word Apostate.

Well when I left it wasn't for that because I still believed they had the "truth". But in the last few years I have fallen away from their beliefs - big time. And I have no problem telling them that - when it suits me. I can take that word now to empower me. It means I am free.

Do the JWs condemn me for it. You bet they do! Do I care - Not one little bit. I am very proud of the work I have done to recover from all the crap in my life whether as victim of my family and various physical/emotional/sexual abusers or as a victim of the WTS and all its insanity. By porclaiming I am an apostate from the WTS I am saying they no longer control who I am or what I think or believe. For me that is empowering and I am

a proud apostate

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Walking In Apostasy

by COMF in

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friends

sung to the tune of "walking in integrity" * .

please hear me, y'all.

you witness dubs, and all.

Lady Lee

That is awesome

I am ROTFLMHO

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ARE ANY WATCHTOWER BOOKS OF VALUE?

by minimus in

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friends

i have a very extensive library of wt.

publications.

i see how many of you got rid of the books and mags.

Lady Lee

RR who is Stan Milosevic

Do you have any info on him like is he JW or ex etc

If he is ex I would love to contact him

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Fluff - favorite candy

by larc in

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friends

ok, now, it is time for a fluff thread.

what is your favorite candy?

my wife likes mounds.

Lady Lee

Now some of the ladies might relate to this (sorry guys)

Depends on the time of the month

Certain times it is definitely chocolate - any lind of chocolate and no particular favorites andf better with nuts

Brenda you had to say "Ferraro Rochers" - we must be twins separated a t birth right????? can never get enough of those

But other times it has to be salty - peanuts, chips, - love Fritos corn chips

When I was a kid I had a favorite candy. We used to get it at one store around the corner from one place we lived. I cannot find it anymore. It was a cube about 3/4 of an inch and sort of rounded on the corners so half way between a cube and a ball. It was caramel but not chewy like a Kraft caramel with coconut in it. I just loved it. And I have been all across this country looking for something similar - and found nothing :(

Is there anyone who knows about this candy????? I will buy stocks in the company if I have to so that I can get this again

My totally fluff post for the day

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How did we EVER do it all?!??!?!

by poohbear1962 in

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friends

there has been something that has been bothering the "engineer" part of me for a lonnnng while.

we have heard it from the platform time and time again about what we should be doing as "servants of god".

so, today i finally sat down and calculated if it is even possible to do all of the study, meetings, field service, secular work, school, etc, etc.

Lady Lee

OMG Does that ever take me back. Even after 17 years I remember that gruling schedule.

Now if you are a working mom or a single parent this schedule means you have 3.5 hours to do the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc (no "marital due" to worry about though) and add the time from Prepare to study with spouse and prep time for a talk

No wonder some of the sisters are so sick - and esp the elders wives

gonna go lie down for a bit

I'm tired now

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thank all of you for your help

by sister grace in

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friends

this is my first time posting.

i have been reading all the post for about 6 months.

i now have gotten up enough nerve to post.

Lady Lee

Welcome from me too - the one in the back over here

See we don't bite and the sky didn't fall

and it seems your opener is bound to make us like you

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JW's in interfaith service

by Osarsif in

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friends

from: http://www1.richmond.com/output.cfm?id=2161158&cfid=568503&cftoken=77338460.

wednesday, september 11 [...].

virginia holocaust museum 4 p.m. to 5:30 p.m., 2000 e. cary st. interfaith service for the museum's "new home for tolerance" will mark the dedication for the museum's new shockoe bottom home.

Lady Lee

Ahem There is only one reason the JWs are climbing on board this issue $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

anyone heard how much $$$ they are talking about in settlements? Any bets as to how much of that the WTS wants a cut of?